The title is a coinage by my friend Steph, a driven, hardworking and generally solid-gold fellow Yale Daily News alum/fellow photography enthusiast from college.
Once, someone at the newspaper asked Steph what she planned to do after graduation. Would she go to Africa? (Yale had recently started a new program on the continent.) Bulldogs in Accra — as the program was colloquially known — seemed to dovetail with her myriad international interests.
Not a chance. “Ghana’s too trendy,” she countered immortally. (I say “immortally” nearly literally, as the quote went into a meticulously updated shared Word doc we kept at the newspaper called “Quotes of the Night.”)
I always laugh when I think of that exchange. (Or read it in my printed “Quotes of the Night” binder!) Steph wound up going elsewhere that summer, and she’s amassed an incredible work history of noble, rare and crazy jobs in far-flung regions since.
But I sympathize with her sentiment. I’m definitely the type to set bizarre (read: unrealistic) and unorthodox (read: elitist) goals for myself. I’ve always had crazy inchoate ideas about my future wedding, which I only realize are strange when I formalize them or hear them coming out of my mouth (i.e., as I relate them to a friend, whose polite smile quickly morphs into a flabbergasted gape).
Examples: I will get married on Necker Island. My bridesmaids will wear white. In fact, they will all wear traditional wedding dresses. This won’t conflict with my outfit, because that will be a sui generis amalgam of:
1) a cheongsam
2) a sari
3) Anne Hathaway’s Atelier Versace gown from the 2009 Venice Film Festival.
Do I have a sketch or a mental image? No. Those are just the meaningful elements to include. First 2 for obvious cultural reasons and the 3rd because that is one of my all-time favorite dresses. Also, Anne Hathaway shares my birthday (though not year), and I alternately am reviled by/can identify with her bold striverism.
I just get wacky ideas and overindulge them. My wedding will be like nothing the people have ever seen! Ghana* is too trendy.
*Ghana = any convention, convenience or belief that the majority of people have accepted as standard. I, of course, have dismissed all these things as insufficiently recondite for my ~*1 in a trillion*~ love. That’s the thing about wedding planning for people with my particular brand of neurosis and snobbery. It’s absolutely stultifying to realize that each choice you’re making is foreclosing a whole universe of other expressions.
My point is: We haven’t set our venue yet.
Meanwhile, enjoy this photo set from back when Steph made an impromptu trip to L.A. last November. (Gardena was too trendy.)