The other day, Deepak introduced me to someone as his fiancée. The person we were meeting genially blurted out, “Congratulations!”
Separately, on a recent out-of-town trip, the bellhop called me “Mrs.”
Ah, the two extremes of having been engaged for a while. First, there’s the secondhand glow of excitement, anticipation — of being on the cusp of something. Then, after 6 months or so, there’s the assumption that the deed has already been done.
In that Wrigley’s jingle/wedding viral video soundtrack/objectively great song we are now to hate because it was performed by a known Rihanna-beater — “Forever” by Chris Brown — Brown sings:
Rewritten for our circumstances, we have:
“It’s you & me moving at the speed of light into uncertainty”
“It’s you & me moving at the speed of light into an ebola isolation facility”
“It’s you & me moving at the speed of into eternity … except, the light is traveling through a bath of laser-bathed cold sodium atoms”
There are some glimmers of hope on the horizon, maybe. I will now tease again and refrain from detailing some of the major stumbling blocks to our ability to set a date. But that doesn’t mean we can’t gather ideas! IT’S OKAY TO LOOK.™ To quote the ever-relevant slogan of an online dating company.
Some observations from the long road:
TIP #1: Enjoy the perks of being engaged! Everywhere you go, people direct goodwill and genuine well-wishes to you. Or they don’t – and the silence and/or malice is like a piece of litmus paper turning bright red. (You are an ACID. Bye!)
TIP #2: Pick a wedding venue that will look classy and nice even if you were to spend NOTHING on decorations.
This is a perennial tip that you will probably read a hundred times in various literature. But it doesn’t sink in until you see really SPARTAN setups (which you won’t until you’re in the midst of your own wedding and suddenly second-guess your decision to turn down the $9/person Chiavari chair charge!). Keep it simple. Keep it cheap. Choose a place with high-end fixtures!
TIP #3: Stop and take pictures! The open houses, setups for other weddings and other demos may be nicer than your own wedding will ever be (just speaking for myself). Why not insert yourself in front of that decorative flower wall or at that $7,000 sweetheart table?